I have a lot of single male friends. I dont know any who are with or date women more than a decade their junior. Who they ‘don’t want’ to date is grandma. Nothing less attractive than short hair, glasses and frumpy.
I have so much MORE to offer at 53 thatn i did at 33….but the packaging is older….and nobody gives me a second thougt! I left a totally dysunctional relationship i tried to keep going for 8 yrs. 2 weeks after i said done…he was with a 45 yr old grandmother and they r now …a year later…raising the grandchild! Signed up on eharmony….and feel totally pathetic about it. I swore in my 30s…i will never be one of those sad 50somethings looking for a guy…..but here i am AGAIN.
If you have money, well that just makes you more attractive. If his working days are behind him and you’re still focused on a job and all the ambitions, woes, and time demands that come with it, you may struggle to connect at the end of the day. “Often relationships are built on similar life experience, and the difference between daily work and retirement can be quite a marked one,” Lester explains. When it comes to sexual fantasies, however, men have minimum age preferences that are younger than the rule would designate appropriate. For example, this sample of 60-year-old men reports that it is acceptable to fantasize about women in their 20s, which the rule would say is unacceptable. Dating middle-aged men present different challenges for men and women.
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I have the stamina and grounding to make it for the long haul, but that doesn’t seem to be important or appreciated. It really is hard to think of trusting again, but I have faith that I may just find one of you good guys some day. EyesWideOpen……….You did the right thing by cultivating male friendships. I think it’s important that both men and women have their own friends.
With kids out of the nest, an older man may have more time for you.
Unfortunately she didn’t feel the same and chose to get involved with a married man. Someone called me and said I don’t know you but your friends felt you should know so I said I would call. I had two children so we attempted to get beyond this but she ended up leaving after 27 yeas of marriage. I am a mid 50’s straight male https://hookupranker.com/connexion-review/ in good physical shape, fully “functional”, strong sex drive, very financially independent, was married for 20+ years and have 2 children from my previous marriage. For most of my life I have had about as many female friends as male friends. I have been told multiple times by men and women that I am very easy to talk to.
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I am a woman, and sex has always been “at the core” of my interest in a relationship with a man. Equally important are respect, tenderness and moral strength. Women in their 50s don’t want to work, they don’t want a man to work full time plus if at all , they don’t want to deal with his children, all they want to do is be pampered and travel. I have dated a number of women many of them widows not divorced who are my contemporaries at 55 and as old ss 60. I really don’t think it’s rocket science.
I want to meet a woman and have the last first kiss I’ll ever have. I don’t want to die alone and I’ll never be so naive to champion independence over the biological need to connect. I believe a lot of people have a hard wake up call coming in their later lives!
Hey Carl, it’s You’re the man, not Your. Even with the young gals….maybe especially. Just because they say they “prefer” it doesn’t mean these men get them. The great majority of young women–not “younger”, young–will not have anything to do with much-older men.
This is why I have worked very hard over the past decade to make, keep, and solidify male friendships, both fairly new and from decades ago. Pick up the phone and make that call, schedule lunch just to catch up, etc. A key element, of course, is that it has to be a two-way street. That work has paid off in that I now have a good network of male friends who are there for support and camaraderie. I relate to so much of what you wrote, being that single guy that never married. You bring up a very good point…men our age need a place to talk about this stuff and learn from each other because, as only guys like us know, we are somewhat outcasts in society.
Maybe American women should study the other cultures too see if any of their practices would work for them. It really isn’t as easy as it seems for men in their 50s that are looking for a serious relationship. I’m told on dates “a great guy” I’ve adopted grandkids , work hard no debt , 56 young at heart , tall dark hair , no debts . Older woman run marathons and aren’t any heavier than the pregnant looking men as they age.